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To Overcome Mesothelioma, Give Yourself a Break
It’s a funny thing about life that one of the hardest things may just be to accept where you are.
No matter how difficult it may be, the reality is there is nothing more important — particularly when it comes to coping with things like cancer.
When bad things like cancer come in our lives, there’s this automatic way of reacting that many of us are prone to — a way of reacting that says, "Well, let’s just get over this hump." It’s the same way us lifelong dieters tend to think. We think, "Well, once I lose those last five pounds, then my life can start." It may work — er, sort of — when it comes to you and fitting into that little black dress, but it absolutely does not work for coping with the big things in life, the tragedies that hit us in the gut.
Instead, as hard as it may be, these tragedies require us to accept where we are.
It’s hard enough to figure out what to do when someone in your family is diagnosed with mesothelioma. New doctors, possible treatments, the realities of leaving work and tending to the family… the list is ongoing and nonstop and it works, coping with mesothelioma and other lethal cancers and illnesses works, only when we fully accept where are and what has happened.
Of course you need to look ahead and maintain hope, but living too much in "the future" in place of the present lends itself to a distorted reality. It also makes it harder to enjoy the little things that still count for something in your present life.
Yes, mesothelioma came in and it changed your life forever. But you still love your family, you still can laugh at the same jokes and you still enjoy your grandmother’s secret recipe for cherry pie.
It’s easy to get in the thick of it with mesothelioma and just go through the drudgery of decisions and doctors and treatments et cetera. It’s easy to just put your head down and keep on trucking. But if you can accept where you are and that there are still things that are meaningful in your present reality, if you can accept that that famous "future" we are all heading towards isn’t coming tomorrow, if you can accept that you have to — really, that you have to — slow down and "smell the flowers," even in the wake of sadness, then you are on your way.
Accepting where you are right now is important for two reasons. The first reason is so that you will better appreciate the little moments and the time you have with your family and the ones that matter most to you. The second reason is that, by understanding where you are right now, you will better see the reality of your situation and therefore make better and more proactive decisions.
The truth is that acceptance has nothing to do with quitting. No way! Instead, acceptance means living in the moment and taking charge.
And who wouldn’t want to do that?
It can be hard to know what to do, especially when it comes to handling the financial burden of mesothelioma cancer. One may to receive financial assistance is through a mesothelioma lawsuit. To learn more, contact the law firm of Baron and Budd at 855-280-7664 or contact us here.